I'm just getting caught up. The only thing I'll add is that you are caught up with her AKA not detached. You've only been working at this for a short time, but you should start making progress soon if you're taking the steps. Sometimes a subsequent reading of something will yield a new perspective. So reread the advice you've gotten and try to do you best to understand and implement it.
One thing that stood out was you saying "D is imminent". OK well you don't know that. You need to "act as if".
Good luck.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
