I read your reply to “why do it now”, the day you posted it.
I’ve been mulling it over , and I’ve read it a few times.
It is well reasoned and thought out. I can see and understand your desire to have that last thread between the girls and their mom remain, no matter how thin or tenuous it may be.
The hope that you keep alive that if their mom were ever to wake up, she was in atleast some small way part of their lives, shows care and compassion; mostly for your girls and even some for their mom. It shows a great deal of you.
It is difficult to hope for a better connection between children and their estranged parent, to not destroy any relationship they have, to quietly be a stanchion for the possiblility of that better relationship between them.
My children’s mother, my W, has no threads, thin or otherwise. She does not provide any support in any form, money, care, or communication - well for now anyhow. She did have that one recent phone call to S20, I guess that’s something. Maybe it’s a start back, maybe not.
In your latest post, I see your exW will continue to contribute her meagre financial support. Legally she has no choice. I wonder if that fact shook her up a bit, she could use it, IMHO.
It is sad, that exW still will not directly contact her children. We can guess, and probably hit pretty close to the mark, as to the reason for why. At any rate, you are correct, her contact through the lawyer demanding you provide more updates as to the girl’s well-being and education, highlights her unfortunate state.
I must say, I was surprised to see you plan on selling your house. It does sound like you have a few projects to finish for the sale in June. You have been at this long enough too know when it is time for a change. Good for you Irish, and your girls.
How big a change are you looking at. Moving to somewhere still close, or a big change, new city, province? I don’t think you have any legal entanglements preventing you from moving anywhere you wish.
Best of luck.
DnJ
Hmmm. With all the money you’ll save on not buying sage, you could get a yacht, no a sports car, wait a Tesla, oh.. a Ferrari, not wait a.....oh ya - You like jeeps.
Love you man. Doing great!
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.