Yes, they can change on a dime and give you nine cents change. They are emotional and don't always think rationally. Try to remember that she's an emotional depressed hot mess right now. Yes, you will see moments of clarity, but she will bounce back and forth Their wiring in the brain is a scramble mess. You can't rationalize with someone who is irrational.
Throwing out compliments when they do something that warrants a compliment is okay. Wouldn't you give a compliment to a friend if they did something that warranted a compliment?
Try not to over analyze her behavior or what she says. Focus on you and try to maintain some stability for you and your family. As for your wife, she's going to be bouncing all around for a while.
If you have not read the detachment thread, you may want to do so. It will provide you with some tips on detaching.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
