13 years and two small children

[Hurt213]

I just composed a mail the minute before you posted unfortunately:

I summed up of the things "ready2change" wrote in another forum post.

I wrote her:

"Hi xxxx.

Here are my thoughts regarding the house and other aspects of this.

Look at the papers, and tell me what you think.

You have clearly expressed, that I am not to be a part of your life anymore, and that you want out of this.

Me: I agree, this is not working for either in the current way things are.

You no longer have any interest in me.

Me:I understand, and can see why we should no longer be a thing. We both deserve to be happy.

You express that you have lost yourself in this, and have lost other opportunities in life because you were with me.

Me: I agree, and think it is best if you figure things out, without me.

Me: I see many solutions to our problems. If this is the only way, that will make you happy. Then I won't stand in your way.

You said that our relationship became routine and it was unhealthy.

Me: I agree, i need and want more excitement in my life.

You expressed that our relationship developed into something you didn't expect.

Me: It surely was not what I expected either , and I never want to get back to that situation again.

You say, that sometimes you have feelings for me, and other times you don't - you don't know how to make those feelings stay.

Me: Well, I don't know how to make them stay, but I am looking forward to having my feelings of affection returned one day.

You told how you did things with me, that you didn't really enjoy doing, but you did it for me.

Me: I appreciate your honesty. Hopefully now, you will get to do things that make you happy.

You say so many things went down over the last couple of years, that you no longer can see yourself in this relationship. Me: I can't fathom that we made it this far. I wish relationships werent this complicated.

You expressed the fact that you love / loved me. But you are eager and interested in finding out what is out there for you.

Me: I am sorry you feel that way, but I hope you find what you are looking for."