I sent the sales papers for the house to WW this morning with the following message: Hi xxxx. Here are the papers for the house, let me know if I should proceed with the sale immediately."
She wrote me a text instantly saying "weren't we going to wait with the sale for after christmas?"
I don't know what to respond....
She is currently still seing / in contact with OM, and I feel like im only giving her time to find a footing in the new relationship she is trying to evolve.
However if I push for the sale, then I am the one doing the dirty work?
Do I inform her, that I am not interested in delaying the sale, because it is only giving her time to evolve things with OM?
Im at a loss here, please help .
Hurt - from reading other threads the general advice here (and granted it is normally to be with D) is that we don't push for it if we don't want it, but we also don't stand in the way.
Things will evolve with OM regardless of whether you sell the house or not. What do you want? Do you want to sell the house or are you doing it to show her there are 'consequences'.
If it were me, and granted our sitch's are not exactly the same I would respond with a "I do not want to sell the house, but if you are firm that you want to sell it, then I do not see the point of waiting as we may not get another offer for some time."
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