In march someone bashed into the front of the house with their car. it wasn't major damage, more like turning in our driveway and reversing too far and hitting the wall. At the time we thought it was our au pair but could not prove it. I bought the camera as a kind of deterrent - she was also bringing 'friends' back when we weren't there. Well she left a few weeks later and I never bother to put the camera up as there was no reason. About six weeks ago I came home to find the camera installed. He said it was for insurance purposes - which might be true as our house insurance was up for renewal about the same time.
H has it connected to his phone (as do I). I know he checks it because sometimes the cleaner unplugs it when she is doing the floors and he has spoken to me about asking her not to. He has even put a sticker on the plug saying 'DO NOT UNPLUG'. It is also linked to our temperature control app provided by our electricity provided. The bill is in his name, so I am not even sure if he can be removed from the app (the app is registered to the bill payer).
I could speak to him about unplugging it but I expect I will be called ridiculous, difficult and awkward a few times followed by him storming off and me feeling like a bag of [censored].
Thoughts - should I just unplug it? Should I live with it? Should i brave the conversation?
Journalling
Stayed in with D12 yesterday as she was ill from school. Sent an email to the school advising them and cc'd H. He emailed me back mid-day to see if she was OK. I was having a facial at them time (D12 is OK to leave for an hour or so) so didn't respond. When I got back was busy so forgot. He called in the evening and after speaking to the girls, asked to speak to me. He asked if D12 was OK. I said, yes, she has tummy ache (as per the email). D12 gets tummy aches a lot and I have always suspected it has to do with anxiety. H has always blown it off thinking it was some sort of ruse to make him feel guilty. This time he seemed really concerned and even asked me to let him know if it gets any worse. I said sure, but played it down and we quickly got off the phone.
When he called he would have just got to his friends house. It would be the first day of his holiday. He did not mention it to the kids when he spoke to them, nor to me when I spoke to him, I do not even think he has told the kids he is on holidays. I did not ask him how the flight went or how is friend is (his friend is an old male school friend). I wonder if it would be better if I said something like "How is X? Are you having a nice time?". Would that come across as friendly but detached or pursuit?
Nothing else much. Life with an ill child makes GAL difficult.
I have bought some more of the picture tiles, this time with a few of H in it. They arrived yesterday and I will put them up in the den with the other picture tiles. I am going to show him that his leaving no longer has the emotional impact it once did and I am now Ok with having pictures of him up in the house, well in the den, which is really the children's TV room.
