Burned - I want to help you. I’m just not exactly sure what to say or how to say what I’ve said differently to better help you.
My best advice is this. The best way to stop doing something is...to stop doing it. If you want to stop obsessing over W...then stop obsessing over her. The problem is that your brain doesn’t have an off switch. So if I say “whatever you do, don’t picture a giant elephant wearing a pink tutu”...what’s the first thing you think about? So instead, you need to fill your brain with other thoughts. That’s where GAL comes in. I know that sometimes people stay so busy that they don’t have time to think about their problems. I don’t necessarily think that would be a bad thing for you. It wasn’t for me. I used to have a game night on Monday, go to trivia on Tuesday night, play Pathfinder on Wednesday, have my kids the next three nights and then find some friends to hang out with and watch football on Sundays. And then I would start over the next week. I was getting home at midnight or being with my kids pretty much every night. By the time I slowed down and was in a state to think about my XW...I didn’t want to anymore. Your life has momentum. The only way to really reverse it is to focus on the positives, to GAL, and to just force your way back up.
How is your Happiness Journal? How are you doing on your goals that you set? What small successes can you celebrate?
