[Ready2Change]

Here are words to use if need (or communicated non-verbally to him in your actions)

He wants out of this marriage

W:"I agree, this is not working for me either"

* He no longer has "it" for me

W:"I understand. I don't see why we are still together. We both deserve to be happy"

* He feels like he doesn't know who he is
* He feels like he has lost his identity in this marriage
* He said not to mention that the internal stuff he is been ignoring hasn't even been brought to the light yet

W:"I agree. I think it is best if you figure that out without me."

* He thought he could make it work but he just can't...but he is sorry

W:"I see many solutions to our problems. If this is the only way for you to be happy, I will not stand in your way"

* He said our marriage became routine and he never wanted it to become that

W:"I agree. I want more excitement in my life."

* He said we didn't have sex enough and it was not spontaneous enough

W:"I agree. I am looking forward to a better sex life"

* He told me that the marriage just isn't what he expected

W:"This is not what I expected either. I never want to find myself in the situation again."

* He says sometimes he feels that spark for me and sometimes he doesn't. He doesn't know how to make it stay

W:"I don't know how to make it stay either. I look forward to that feeling again."

* He said he has basically been doing the things I like just so he can be with me. However, he doesn't like to do the things that I enjoy

W"I am glad you are being honest with me. Hopefully you enjoy doing things you like."

* He said I am a good woman and have been a great wife and I'll find someone else to love me because I deserve that

W:"You are right. I deserve someone to love me."

* He said so much has happened over the years that he just doesn't have it in him anymore to be in this marriage

W:"I can't believe we made it this long. I wish marriage wasn't this hard."

* He loves me but he is just curious what else may be out there for him because this just isn't working for him

"I am sorry you feel that way. I hope you find what you are looking for."