Unsure what's next, what to do.....Part II

[burned]

Yes and yes. Take the high road. She's already letting herself have it. Someone around here once said, every time you want to do something, ask yourself if it's because of love or because of a need. You might need to say those things to her FOR YOU, but she doesn't need to hear them.

Oh but man is it tempting.

Edit: was it on your thread that Accuray posted something about how it's harder to leave a decent person than a terrible person? And all the guilt that goes with it?

Or another way of looking at it. I had to put my dog down last year. We hugged her and petted her while she was falling asleep. It was sad but kind. Now think of what if we decided she was just not the dog for us, for no particular reason except that it just wasn't working. Perfectly decent dog, just not really what we're into right now. So we bring her to the shelter. Do we spend 3 hours helping her get comfy in the cage? Do we wave at her and smile as we walk away? Do we feel good when she makes the horrible left-behind sound? I think it's like that. To the dog, we're evil abandonment monsters who are happy to watch her starve. But to us, it's what we had to do. So be the dog that curls up and rests, trusting that pretty soon some cute kid is going to want a birthday present.