An old mindset for Burned. This is thread 8.

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D now appears to be just a matter of time, and W seems to be getting meaner and colder by the week.

This is actually fairly normal. I think they do it hoping that we will treat them the same thus justifying their desire to D. So your response should be to take the high road and not let her drag you down to her level. Conduct yourself with dignity and respect at all times.

That's my aim. And taking the high road is simple, all I have to do is not let her see me flipping out. And it's all by text. It would be a whole different barrel of fish if we lived together. But we're going on 2 months now of not having seen each other FTF.

I'm fairly certain I won't be getting a second chance.

Absolutely no way to know that. I have a friend whose wife went rogue and told him there was zero chance they would get back together, ever. They sold their home and business and split the proceeds and she moved in with OM. They did not talk at all for 2 years. Then she started reaching out, then they had coffee, then dating, and now they are back together and happier than ever. That all took place several years ago and they are still together. Will you get back together in a week? No. A month? Highly doubtful. A year? Iffy. Ever? I would never go that far.

I hope you don't get tired of repeating yourself. If I had a buck for every time you've posted something like that on my thread in the last month...but it helps to be reminded. At least it makes it feel less like crashing into a brick wall at 100 mph, and more like, I dunno, pressing the morphine button a few times too many. Getting sleepier and sleepier but not dead yet. Maybe that only makes sense in my head.

I could use any encouragement people might be able to spare.

Very sorry you are going through this but most of us here can 100% relate to what you are saying. ... ... That's the benefit of this forum, you're talking to people that are walking or have walked in your shoes.

And I really appreciate it. It's above and beyond. I mean we're supposed to be here for ideas about how to implement DB principles. But the moral support helps just as much. Especially when one isn't so great at DBing...