I've worked out that W and IL have been lying to me for 4 or more years about money they had inherited. During that time W had constantly made me feel bad for not being able to afford a bigger house... I now know she had the money to make that happen but had lied to me. Victim support have explained to me that W had been controlling and abusive for making me feel bad.
Yesterday, W said she wanted to come to the family home to look for something but didn't say what. I don't want her near home and that is why my L insists that change-overs have to be in a public place because W can't be trusted not to cause a scene to try to use against me.
Today, I went to a school event to support eldest. W and in-laws were there. I sat away from them and didn't start any conversation with them. They looked very guilty but then I forgot they were even there. At the end W came up to me to thank me for doing something for one of the kids that they had already thanked me for.
Part of me thinks separation has been good because initially, W had blamed me for everything and then she refused to discuss our MR. BUT I've since realised I've been lied to for years by W (and IL). I'm likely to lose my kids and home due to W lies but I still have my honesty and integrity.
