If this statement was 100% correct she would do MC with you. I don't think there is a person in the world that will deny that the kids are better off in a happy, healthy marriage which can be obtained in successful marriage counseling.
I agree! Which makes me wonder where her freaking head is at...she keeps trying to convince herself that they will be "just fine" if we D. She's always been super independent, so I'm sure she probably does believe they will be "just fine." She came from a broken home due to the sexual abuse of her biological father, so that probably doesn't help her appreciation of a full, intact family. I don't know....
I just wish I could talk to her logically, but as everyone on here has warned, that will do NO good. It's all based on emotion right now. I would love to just set it all straight with her but I know for a fact that won't get me anywhere.
While I wish none of us were in this situation, unfortunately it gives me a little comfort knowing I'm not alone in wondering why she isn't open to trying to fix the M. It just seems so damn obvious that that would be the obvious and most logical solution it drives me (and all of you guys) nuts. Again, logic has no bearing in their minds, it's all emotion. But you'd think eventually some logic would come into play.....oh well, onward and upward.
At least at the end of the day I'll know I tried everything I could in my power to make it work. She probably thinks the same thing, right now, but we all know that isn't the case and eventually maybe she will realize that too. By then it'll probably be too late though.
M: 34 W:34 D:7 D:6 S:3
M: 9.5 years T: 12
OM found & BD (by me): 9/19/18 IHS begins W informs me she's moving out: 11/28/18 W files: 12/21/18 D Final: 2/25/19
