I'm not sure what your thoughts are on me going or not. If you would like me to go, we can just leave a car there and pick it up on the way back otherwise I will just drop them off and go back home."
Potato Potato Tomato Tomato I would of assumed I wasn't going unless she specifically asked me to go.
Originally Posted by Wanted1
The asking about her day is more about maybe a 180 for me I guess? I don't want to be silent because she might imply that I'm mad or upset that she took this job and I don't "care" about how her first day went. If I ask and seem genuinely interested, it would show her that I care about her and how her day went and maybe show to her that I'm fine/OK with her taking this new job. I don't know....
This is fine as long as you have zero expectations it changes anything. I didn't like to engage in small talk because it kept me attached while I was progressing in detaching. I would say hi, goodbye, morning, goodnight but wouldn't go out of my way to do it just wouldn't avoid it.
Originally Posted by Wanted1
HOWEVER, none of her actions or frankly nothing else she has said really confirms that is what she believes or is thinking.
Ding ding ding we have a winner! We always say here look at her ACTIONS.
Originally Posted by Wanted1
The part that really bugs, concerns and disappoints me is that I'm not really even asking her to R at this point. I'm simply asking her if she would be open to TRYING to work on our M to see if we can R. To actively work in a healthy manner (marital counseling, retrouvaille, etc.) to see if we can't make things work which we've never done, ever, in the past. I'm just astounded that she's willing to give up half of the time with our kids without even trying to see if we can make it work. This is what just shocks the hell out of me. I don't understand it.
Wanted there isn't one person on this board who can't say the same thing. This is the last thing that still bothers me to this day.
Originally Posted by Wanted1
I guess there are essentially two things that might work in my favor. 1 being the new job is going to give her way less time with the kids (1 hr commute one way), so she's going to be missing out on getting them ready for school, dropping them off at school, picking them up from school and more than likely feeding/having supper with them.
Don't be so sure about that my friend. I am seeing this girl who admitted she likes not having her kids for a week.
