I sort of implied that it was up to her whether or not I would attend as well or not.
I would be curious to know the exact conversation. If it was you saying "would it be ok if I go with you?" That's weak.
Right after my W filed for D I was invited to her Aunts for Easter. I declined because it would have been award for me. She took the kids to her Aunts I went to my moms. The kids asked where I was the ex said Grandmas. No more questions.
If you don't want to go don't go. If you want to have one more family Thanksgiving then go.
It's really all about your expectations. Whether you ask her how her day went or you don't it's not going to change anything. Whether you go to Thanksgiving or not it is not going to change anything.
I am going to be really honest with you and give you MY opinion. Based on the text your W sent you she is going to D you. Now you have two choices, you can go out like an alpha male or you can go out like a beta male. Which choice do you think has a better chance at recon?
