Very good answers to the questions (rhetorical or not).
We have a similar view of things and life.
As to my hinting to something profound. The part - go beyond and find your core, your beliefs, your convictions. That was right above those questions, that you answered so well.
The questions asked - What do you believe.
Not - what is happening, what do others think about this, how do your feel towards <whatever>, what do you think about <whatever>, logically what probability do you give blah blah.
Again, those questions are just a starting point for you.
Did you really answer - What you believe.
When you get to indifference, you are well on your way to healing, you have been involved in self reflection and examination. Those are the acts that push indifference forward.
So, with out all the noise from emotions, and already in the mind set of self reflection, you can delved deep inside yourself and find what you really believe in, what is non-negotiable, what you are willing to die for (figuratively), what you are willing to compromise on, what you are willing to forgive or not forgive. And many many other characteristics about yourself, all with out those fleeting feelings getting in the way and skewing your results.
You will truly understand that man in the mirror. That is profound! To understand one’s self. We all think we do. But, do you really know yourself?
Yes there are moral convictions you will discover. Your’s. No one else’s. Not your parents’, not W’s, not your friends, not even DnJ’s - Your’s based on who you are.
So, back to those questions - based on your beliefs.
Do you believe in MLC? There are people who do and those that don’t. Who is right? Is there actually a right answer? A true answer? Can both by right? Can both be true? Why? Why not? That is the digging I am talking about, the going beyond.
What about marriage? How far are you willing to go? What about vows? What about standing? Where does marriage end?
Is W worth the effort? Are you worth the effort?
Did you notice that all that up there, all those questions, all the answers you will be seeking, it is all about and based on you, nothing to do with your spouse. Do you see why indifference is necessary? It is all you. Who you are and will be.
I hope that filled in a few more of the blanks.
By the way - Your title - making it about me...
Kind of profound, I think.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
