MC session # 6 today. After some 'pleasantries', the entire session was spent on one of W's specific resentments towards me. the one about me not assisting in a 'big' issue the night before our wedding, that I honestly don't even remember.
I tried to validate W's feelings, but again, I really had no idea this situation even existed. After getting our 'sides' of the story, C started talking about 'intent' of actions, and feels I had no intent to be hurtful. Maybe I was a little clueless at the time and didn't pay more attention to see if W was struggling with something, but C didn't really understand why/how W could still hold this against me. C certainly didn't take sides, but that specific incident could have been dealt with very easily at the time (in C's opinion).
C asked W to bring any other resentments she's been harboring against me so we can discuss. Good times! She also told me that I am free to bring up any issues I've had with W.
Good session I guess, but I have a feeling this is going to keep getting harder and harder.
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
