"I decided I will be spending thanksgiving with my parents."
That does not mean you have to use it. You should understand why it is an option.
Is your wife committed to the marriage? Is your wife in love with you? Has your wife shown remorse? Does my wife REALLY want me there?
List out many more questions like this. Lots of YES's = YES go. Lot's of NO's = Stop pursing and don't go.
Really think about each of your choices and all the REAL consequences. Make a choice and live with the consequences.
Is it better for you to not go and have her miss you? Or is it better to go show all your positive changes? Or go and have a chance to do a 5% that kills you?
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
