Whirlwind of Hurt 4

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TF you're still doing good. You don't have to be a doormat to your wife, and your right to stand up for yourself especially for not wanting to leave the house while the movers are there. Your wife is going to follow through with her plans that's a given. If you were in her shoes you would do the same thing. I don't mean to imply you would ever venture down such a tragic trajectory only, that once your mind was made up on something you would probably follow through with your plans. Now think about this her plans probably don't go very far past moving out and divorce. Once that plan is done then she has to start to figure out what her next plan of action is. She will always move away from you if she thinks you are available to come back to. This is tricky territory because it probably will mean she will flirt with you, talk to you, be nice to you always checking the water to see that you are available in case she needs you. What you need to do is be in complete control and that is shut her out as much as possible. Don't be her back-up. Be nice, friendly and outgoing. When she asks you how you are doing. say great! But don't elaborate. If she asks what you've been up to. Tell her just enough to make her curious but nothing else. Always end the conversation first and never elude to the fact that you miss her terribly. If she says she misses you it's probably a test don't bite, in fact, don't say anything at all. You've got this TF, it's a marathon but you can start to take control. You will think she isn't thinking about you when she really can't get you off her mind. This takes time, but use it, use it to make yourself the best version of you possible. If not for her, for another who will deserve your love and affection even more then her.