Unsure what's next, what to do.....Part II

[Wanted1]

A couple questions:

First, my W starts her new job on Friday. We've always worked together for those of you who haven't read about my sitch previously. When she gets home on Friday after her first day, do I ask her how it went, etc.? It seems to me that I should but wanted to run it by everyone. I've been trying not to initiate random conversation with her but I feel like this wouldn't fall into the category of "random."

Second, we had to discuss what the plans are for Thanksgiving, maybe a bit prematurely, but we had other family members asking what our plans were so they could plan accordingly. It was from my side of the family, so I approached W last week about what her/our plans were going to be. She told me her brother is planning on being back to her parent's house for Thanksgiving, so she would like to go out there (4 hour drive from where we live). I sort of implied that it was up to her whether or not I would attend as well or not. I don't remember her exact response but it was somewhat apparent that she wanted me to come with. So, in essence, I was invited to share in the holiday with her, her family and our kids.

Not to go into too much detail, but Monday was not a good day for me. For a number of reasons. A lot of work stuff didn't go as planned, had some car issues with these dumb keyless fobs and push button start they have now and I suppose on top of all of that, the text I referred to before from W before my IC session didn't help either. Needless to say, I was kind of in one of those moods that I probably should be in more often to help me detach. I don't think I was angry or resentful but regardless, I was in the #@$% it mindset and at that point didn't really care whether this worked out in the end or not. Like I said, I need to probably be in that mindset permanently. So, I got to thinking about whether or not I should take W up on having Thanksgiving together. Part of me really wanted to just turn it down and then just go somewhere by myself for the long weekend to sort of "get away" and maybe recalibrate. I brought this up to my IC and she immediately told me if W invited me that I should go and that it would be nice for the kids to have me there as well more for the fact of not having to answer questions why Daddy isn't with them.

I was just wanting some advice from some of you guys? Do I just go along and try to enjoy possibly one last holiday together as a "family" or should I tell her I might just make my own plans? I don't think I would go celebrate the holiday with my side of the family because 1) I would be peppered with tons of questions about what's going on and 2) it would be pretty depressing spending it with them and not having at least my kids there and knowing they were all together with W's family. I would much prefer just going somewhere by myself.