I need to grab myself by the b@lls, and stop doing what I think she wants me to do - I need to 180 on that nice guy behaviour, and then do things that I enjoy for my sake, not hers.
That's the stuff!
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For the past 3 months since she broke the news, I have been heading to the gym 4 - 5 times a week and it has been my main GAL activity. I have gained 8-10 kg's of body mass, and due to low body fat, my workouts are really showing on my body which is a huge confidence boost. I have been engaging in small talk with some really attractive ladies at the gym, whom I would have never dared engaging just 4 months ago due to low self esteem.
That's awesome too! Keep it up!
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She has been trying to engage in ALOT of small talk tonight - saying how it will be nice for the kids to go to a larger city once we split up, because they will have more friends and better opportunities so basically she said it is a blessing that she decided to end the family life here.
OK, well we do encourage listening and validating but to be clear, that doesn't extend to when she's spouting crap like this. I would be inclined to find something to do out in the garage if she starts talking like this.
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I try to just listen to her when she talks, however I try to spend as little time in the same room as her as possible, and just acting content and happy when I am in the house
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Good.
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Is there anything else I should be aware of / be doing differently?
Just keep in mind it's a long, long road. You are only a few months in which no doubt feels like forever to you, but it will take her many more months or a year or more to change her mind about you. So be patient, don't look for a lot of positive signs from her anytime soon, but don't let the negative signs bring you down because it's only a reflection of how she feels right now. It can and probably will change later.
