Yes I do realize everyone IRL that has watched me during this transition has my best interests at heart and doesn’t want to see me go though what I’ve been through again. That’s why I grateful to have this community to get sound advice.
Along with holidays, I failed to mention S’s birthday is also coming up in December.
I know I will tread carefully, but when W initially left, she said she wanted to continue to do these as a family. I’m of the opinion that is cake eating....and having separate holiday/birthday celebrations are a part of D. I know others have different thoughts on how to handle these...but at my S age I don’t want to give any confusion or false hope.
We have only done 1 event as a family since BD when it was still fresh...and I got twisted up myself. Maybe being open minded to doing one of these is what I need to do to be a bit more available.
Marathon not a sprint...won’t change up my DB approach and try to force anything.
GAL activities include 7 mile run, gym, group meeting, dinner in the city.
Me - 38 W-37 S6 M 10 years T 13yrs BD 3/18 W moves out 4/18 W files 7/18
