So since she has a lot of stuff and very little is out would a continued silence be tacit acceptance of the situation? Enabling cake eating?
No I don't think you are enabling her by not kicking her out. I mean legally you can't kick her out, you can only ask her to leave and if she chooses not to there's nothing you can legally do about it. Enabling cake-eating is more along the lines of doting on her, appeasing her, doing things for her and generally acting like everything is normal and OK while she carries on with an affair. If you are getting out and GAL'ing and giving her time and space while working on you, then you are not enabling her.
