13 years and two small children

[Hurt213]

Thank you so much for your input guys.

I can see how it is a complete retard move to set boundaries (kicking her out), to then follow it up by having a meal with her and our mutual friend the following day - however we are eating dinner together everyday for the kids sake.

I need to grab myself by the b@lls, and stop doing what I think she wants me to do - I need to 180 on that nice guy behaviour, and then do things that I enjoy for my sake, not hers. I have been having problems eating right for a long time due to chronic illness, and therefore I have been skinny and well not really taking good care of myself.

For the past 3 months since she broke the news, I have been heading to the gym 4 - 5 times a week and it has been my main GAL activity. I have gained 8-10 kg's of body mass, and due to low body fat, my workouts are really showing on my body which is a huge confidence boost. I have been engaging in small talk with some really attractive ladies at the gym, whom I would have never dared engaging just 4 months ago due to low self esteem.

Today she asked me to to groceries for her, and yesterday and all the days before, I would had just said "yes of course", however today I told her "I have plans with the kids, and you need to do them yourself", she then sent 3 texts and I just replied once with a "thank you" because she said, "I hope you have a good time, doing whatever you are going to do".

She has been trying to engage in ALOT of small talk tonight - saying how it will be nice for the kids to go to a larger city once we split up, because they will have more friends and better opportunities so basically she said it is a blessing that she decided to end the family life here.

She also thinks it is really nice that the broker valuated the house at a better price than we paid for it, so that she can get on her merry way with no debt. She asked if it wasn't wonderful - I said "I can understand how you feel that, however I don't feel the same, since I see the cost to the broker of 12.000 dollars as a complete waste of money we had been saving up. She didn't really care about that, she just wanted to get on with her life now.

I try to just listen to her when she talks, however I try to spend as little time in the same room as her as possible, and just acting content and happy when I am in the house.


Is there anything else I should be aware of / be doing differently?

I really really appreciate all the input and guidance, also the rough ones because I then clearly know that I did something wrong.