W,

Boy you are still learning the hard way. Trying to get a reaction from her and it ends up blowing up in your face. Its fine to write those letters and then rip them up or burn them. I can guarantee that letter had the opposite effect on her. She's starting to feel sorry for you. That's not attractive. You keep this up and you won't even be plan B you will be plan C or D.

Here's what I hear in the text blah, blah, blah yes it could work if we were both committed but I don't feel like it.

Same as everyone here. Again I will quote my MC " I have a 100% success rate when both parties are committed and divorce is not an option".

No more letters, no more relationship talks, no more clarifying texts. Focus on your kids, exercise, detach and GAL.