Finally, once again, read and understand. Do not use this website as the answer for everything, try to work out things on your own and understand how everything is related and affects you. Do not be afraid to fall, sometimes for some it is the only way. Sometimes we need to learn the hard way before it sinks in. The good thing is that then it never leaves.
This is so good. Goes along with the not just reading the books but understanding them. So many of the newbies here struggle because the see this as a "follow the directions" exercise. "Here is what happened....tell me what to do."
But understanding will give you the tools necessary to adapt the advice you get, no matter from which source, to your exact set of circumstances.
Reminds me of a girlfriend I had when I was a teenager. I was a terrible boyfriend. Routinely she would ask me "What are you doing Friday night?" My answer was usually "I don't know yet."
One night, some buddies of mine and I went to a go-kart track. Her best-friend was the bf of one of my buddies and through him they found out we were going to the go-kart track. She showed up there. I wasn't thrilled as this was supposed to be a guy's night out and suddenly she was there.
After we rode the go-karts she wanted to talk. During the talk she said "I hate when I ask what you are doing coming up and you tell me I don't know yet. It makes me feel like you don't want to make plans with me and are keeping your options open." She said a lot of other things, but when we were done we started walking towards the rest of the group and she says "So what are you doing tomorrow night." I said "I don't know yet." She threw a fit!
Now say that I decided I wanted to save my R with her, and I came here and said "She just texted me and asked what I was doing tomorrow night! What should I say?" And one of the responses proposed was "tell her you don't know yet."? Should I blindly follow that advice? Of course not, and understanding the principles involved with DBIng, TRULY understanding, will be a huge guide to you about what will or won't work in your own sitch.
Long winded way of saying how much I agree with Maximus on this point!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
