The girlfriend had informed me beforehand, of the fact that she found WWs behaviour repulsive, and that whenever she (WW) was seeking advice regarding her situation, she wouldn't listen, when the advice she got, was not compatible with her view on what was right to do - so the mutual friend was really fed up with her. She told me, that she was going to tell her straight yesterday night -
WHAT???? Why are you talking to W's gf? STOP THAT! Do not discuss your situation with ANY mutual friends. Come here or talk to someone who has no connection to your W.
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I had dinner with them, which was surprisingly fun. We all had a good and light conversation. The mutual friend of ours, asked what I was doing for New Years eve, because if I didn't have plans, I should come and celebrate with them - WW instantly said, that we could just bring the kids fold-up-beds, and then we could all play games, eat dinner and celebrate (me and friend just looked at each other, cause nobody invited her in the first place - however she still acts like "its family time").
So you kicked her out of the MBR and bathroom, actually moved her stuff out yourself, and now you're having a fun dinner and good conversation with her and her bestie. Does this sound like consistent behavior to you? Because to me it sounds like you are sending some very confusing mixed signals out.
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Our friend texted me later, and told me that WW is not mad at me for having taken her things and moved them out of the bedroom, only problem is that it is hard for her to find her stuff when she needs them - but she understands how I need to get some space from her (what does this mean?)
You kicked her out and she thinks you did it because you need space. What's hard to understand? Oh and in case I didn't say it loud enough STOP TALKING ABOUT YOUR SITCH TO HER GF.
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I am finding it hard to figure out how to 180 correct since: being reserved, not telling her how I feel, not flirting enough and not showing her affection has been things she pointed out was missing, and was things she needed.
What you have to understand is she is a lying, cheating, WAS. She's telling you these things not because she wants you to fix them, but because she wants to lay the blame for her affair and bad choices on your doorstep. These are NOT things you want to 180 on right now, to her it will just look pathetic, desperate and like "too little too late". Plus it would just be inviting her to make you a doormat.
