Well others have said what I was going to so I will pluck out the points I was going to hit:
Originally Posted by Zues126
My point is not only wouldn't I have the same 'not just friends' speech, I would personally take the relationship off the table completely.
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Originally Posted by BluWave
However, I don't think she is playing games or stringing you along intentionally. Why would she do that? She just isn't sure and there's too much at stake here if she feels there is one shot and she blows it and things don't work out. So she gets scared and pulls back. I do agree with taking a hard line approach tho. How about doing that more with actions than with words? So sure, take the friendship off the table for now and date the other hot lady. Don't hang out with her and only minimally reply to her texts, calls, or when she shows up. I just don't see a reason to give ultimatums or explain yourself anymore. That won't have any benefit now and she most likely knows it already.
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Originally Posted by Maximus
Some of your comments seem laden with anger and based on revenge. The words "if she does xxxx i'll do yyy" imho do not reflect someone who has truly accepted their situation and searched for their 2.0 version, detached, moved on, got a life, etc.
This too. I think the "Yup, I agree...when and if she ever contacts me again she's getting three-word replies designed to get her to ask me what's wrong" comment in particular seems to show there's some anger there. And that's a very passive-aggressive approach to take anyway. She knows where you stand and she's not on board so if she reaches out just be polite and to the point- "I am looking for a serious relationship and you are not, so I feel it would be best if we ended our contact with each other."
Like Blu said, let your actions reflect your attitude, no more talking. There is really nothing you can say that you haven't already said and that she doesn't already know. I think the bottom line is she doesn't know what she wants and you are done waiting. So don't wait. Put her in the rearview mirror. If she does anymore of this half-assed pursuit then don't respond to it. She knows what it will take to get you back again, and if she's ever on board then she will make sure you know it.
