It has been a while. I apologize for the delay in my response.
When i said I was surprised about Zues' response regarding it being unnatural to live the rest of your life without a parter, i meant it more in that I am surprised because i have been posting to zues for years and he seemed committed to a future of being single. He always made it clear that he was not looking to remarry. (At this time anyway) and i was just asking how his life was going.
And hes right. At times, things do feel very wrong. To me, its not natural that a biological father electively leaves his son. It goes against evolution. (Hes not looking to have more kids with others) and logically is it natural to expect that a non biological dad can love his step child? I hope thats possible. I know i would be capable of loving step children. But natural would be a family working together to ensure survival of their offspring.
Its also very different partnering with someone at this stage in life. We are no longer naive or going into it blindly. I know first hand the difficulties of marriage and long term partnership and financial betrayal.
And yeah, i have to work with the hand i am dealt. I know that.
I want to address Focus' post to me when i start a new thread. She talks about not trusting ourselves. Very true. I have anxiety so i am never sure of my reality which makes decision making hard. It is why i tey to follow logic more then limerance.
It was easier for me to trust in my ex then in myself. I dont want to do that again. Thats my fear. And you do lose yourself that way.
