13 years and two small children

[Hurt213]

Journaling:

So yesterday I came home from work and took the kids to gymnastics. WW was having a mutual girlfriend over for dinner, and they cooked while I was out.

The girlfriend had informed me beforehand, of the fact that she found WWs behaviour repulsive, and that whenever she (WW) was seeking advice regarding her situation, she wouldn't listen, when the advice she got, was not compatible with her view on what was right to do - so the mutual friend was really fed up with her. She told me, that she was going to tell her straight yesterday night - I had dinner with them, which was surprisingly fun. We all had a good and light conversation. The mutual friend of ours, asked what I was doing for New Years eve, because if I didn't have plans, I should come and celebrate with them - WW instantly said, that we could just bring the kids fold-up-beds, and then we could all play games, eat dinner and celebrate (me and friend just looked at each other, cause nobody invited her in the first place - however she still acts like "its family time").

I left to GAL with some friends after having tugged in the kids, and left them to talk. Our friend texted me later, and told me that WW is not mad at me for having taken her things and moved them out of the bedroom, only problem is that it is hard for her to find her stuff when she needs them - but she understands how I need to get some space from her (what does this mean?)

She also said, that OM had texted her yesterday and once again "spread a doubt about wether he wanted to be with her or not", WW had said that he was clearly using her for his own needs, and would throw her away again as soon as he got bored, as he had already done twice - WW said that it was because he was confused. They apparently are going to meet in the near future and talk things through (Guess round 3 is inbound).

This morning, she hardly said anything, she even passed right by me, without saying good morning. She is acting really cold and distant, and I seem to be a nuisance to her at the moment.

I am finding it hard to figure out how to 180 correct since: being reserved, not telling her how I feel, not flirting enough and not showing her affection has been things she pointed out was missing, and was things she needed.

But it goes against the principles of showing her that im moving on, to give her those things, so how do i show her that i've changed, and am able to do those things but at the same time, i don't? I really need advice on how to 180 that behaviour.

Thank you.