That hope will make your more attractive to your W. She, and others, will sense or feel the difference in you.
Your progress is great. Have you had any contact with W lately?
At this point I don't care all that much if I become attractive to my W again. I've become attractive to myself--as weird as that sounds. I like where I am at.
W texts and calls me all of the time, but that's mostly to do with the divorce filing and logistics in seeing the girls. I don't start text threads. I never call. If she asks a question, I respond, but I usually make her wait. I'm still doing well.
This weekend I will be deer hunting in the Badlands of North Dakota. I'm really looking forward to it--although we've lost most of the old timers that used to hunt with us. Today is the 7th anniversary of the last time I hunted with my Dad. His friend who hunted with us died last year. Two other old timers have gotten too blind to hunt. Another old timer had back surgery. This year it will just be five of us. My Mom is the only old timer left. The other three are younger than me (children of other old timers).
Next week W is filing for divorce. They say it takes 1-3 months to process... depending on case load. I'll have the girls for Thanksgiving this year.
I have gotten to the point where I'm pretty close to fully detached. Continue to GAL and 180. I know my story is boring and doesn't get a lot of replies, but I have gotten a lot of wisdom here that has helped me through this. I appreciate the insight I have been given. Thank you all!
Confession: my name is not really Harvey
P.S. I went a stretch of five days in a row where I cooked myself actual meals. Stuff like pork chops and home cooked soup with a grilled cheese thrown in. That may be the longest stretch of my life--as I'd eat out a lot before I met my W.
