Grace - STOP!! Do not do it. Put your phone away. Breathe. Step back. Do not back him into a corner. So he made a couple of calls. All of our H’s move out because they are toying with the idea of a D. Don’t make him want one more than he already does. Scream. Cry. Punch a pillow. Throw darts at his picture. Write. Pray. Read. Watch a scary movie or a comedy. Distract.
I know how you feel. My H was talking D with my SD when she was here this weekend. It has affected me, no doubt, but I am slowly coming to terms with it. It ain’t over until it’s over. The important thing is that he hasn’t brought it up to you. My H has not mentioned it to me either. Seven weeks ago he wanted to come home... was ashamed and willing to do whatever it takes to work it out. He backtracked two days later. It was too much...too painful to face himself. He has demons I will never understand and likely your H does too. You have to give him the space to face them. Stay in the moment. Do not worry about the future. It has not happened yet and may not happen. DB. GAL. In whatever way you can. You will get through this. Don’t make this harder by looking ahead and making dire predictions. You can do this. Gosh...I wish I could just give you a hug because I know exactly what you are feeling right now. It is awful. Please don’t contact him though. Nothing good can come from that.
