I was cold and short with my W this morning dropping D4 off at school. I did not acknowledge her presence which was noticed by her co-workers. W asked what was going on. I said "nothing". She said that I was rude and that her co-workers agreed. Ok. I validated and told her that when I left I felt that I was rude to her and her co-workers' reaction to when I said "Good Morning, ladies" told me that I may have been too cold (rude, whatever).
W then went on about me distancing myself and "not talking to her like a normal person". I validated and told her that I am good.
That being said, I do feel that I am carrying myself into the "cold, rude" territory, which is not DBing. But I also cannot stop thinking of W doing the awful things she has done and (likely) doing to me now.
Is this just something I need to refine as time goes on?
