Gosh Kiwi. That is really, really tough. I some ways, I feel a bit lucky that my H essentially moved before I knew about it. I don’t have any advice for you except to say that it is really up to you and what it is you feel you can handle. I can’t imagine how hard it must be watching all this go down. And your poor kids. Heartbreaking.
Keep DBing and GAL. I know how hard it is when you just want to crawl into bed and go to sleep but force yourself. Tomorrow I am going to a Rotary Club meeting as my sister has been suggesting I join and get involved with volunteering. They meet every week right after work on Wednesdays which is one of the days my H is supposed to be with the kids. Two birds, one stone. I get out of the house and I get to meet new people and do good for others. Looking forward to it.
