Pretty good day today so far. It was my work team’s “team day” so I hosted everyone at my house in the morning and we went out for a nice lunch near a local market where I found some unique Christmas gifts for my kids. The morning was a bit uncomfortable. I was uneasy. People were talking about their partners save for one woman who is the modern version of a spinster. The highlights of her weekend were gardening with her mom and quilting all day Sunday. Ugh...is that my future? She’s only about 7 or 8 years older than me. I also worried that people could tell my H isn’t living here which is silly since they were only in the kitchen. There were six colleagues altogether. Three know about my sitch and three do not. On the way to lunch, I drove with my supervisor who is the only male on our team and is a fantastic husband and father. He talks about his entire family in glowing terms and he and his wife have a date night at least once a week. They drive to work together as she works fairly close to our office. I always see them holding hands walking the short distance to the sidewalk from the parking lot and always parting with a kiss. It makes my heart hurt to see that but I am also very happy that there are men out there like that who value relationship and family above everything else. Anyway...I was glad it was just me and him in the car as it gave me a chance to talk about stuff and get some things off my chest. Comes in handy that I work with a bunch of therapists...lol. They know how to listen and validate and don’t give me unsolicited advice.
Thanks FS for the warning about my MIL. I try to temper some of the things I say to her. I’m not too worried about what she might say to him. She is completely avoidant and has said nothing so far. I can’t see her saying anything to him unless he asks for her advice. And he won’t ask. He won’t dare ask anyone’s opinion who could possibly disagree with him.
