Thanks sjohns6. I really appreciate the feedback. I do actually think my H is going through an early mid-life crisis (he's 38). I didn't mention in my introductory post that when things got really bad between us, about three years ago, he started going to the gym, losing weight, buying new/stylish clothes, buying new underwear, trimming his chest hair, got a tattoo, and bought a motorcycle. If that's not typical MLC, I don't know what is.
I've read Stayed's husband's letter. It was really helpful. I'll check out the other posts.
Sometimes I want to kick myself because I feel like I had the opportunity to really detach and do a 180 and I got caught in his game. In September when I stopped the begging and pleading, I really should have also cut off communication with him. But him going back and forth with me, acting jealous, then acting nice and asking me to come over for family dinner, pulled me back in every week. I was afraid to ignore him or say no, thinking he'd get angry and file for divorce. Well...guess it didn't stop him because now we're on the brink of it.
