It blows my mind but 4 years later you are still plan b.
ItHurts,
I don't have any qualms about anything you've said or done. You're doing just fine in my book.
LH has a point and I'm sure you agree. The weird part of all of this is that you were the one offering a potential relationship again before she showed real interest. Oh, she toyed with interest, but it was inconsistent and not backed with any actions or follow through. Again, no issues, but now you know.
My point is not only wouldn't I have the same 'not just friends' speech, I would personally take the relationship off the table completely. I would say something like "You walked out on me once before. I thought maybe you'd learned from that experience but what you've shown me is that you still are unable to commit. You know I'm not interested in maintaining a friendship, but I'm equally disinterested in investing time and energy into a relationship with a commitment-phobe." Not interested.
Love or no love she isn't capable of being the partner you are looking for. Maybe she'll change some day but I absolutely celebrate your decision not to short change yourself by holding on and hoping that day comes anytime soon, because it probably won't. No problem with you kicking her to the curb. Good riddance. It stinks she even got a little rise out of you but you dodged a bullet that you didn't get sucked in much more than this.
Last edited by Zues126; 11/06/1809:23 PM.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
