Grace - I agree with Rose. He does not know himself what he wants. My H tried to tell me this many times before he MO. I just wouldn't listen. I kept trying to fix us. I pushed him into MC. I tried to get him to talk ALL THE TIME. What i didn't know was that it had less to do with us and more to do with him. I couldn't fix us because I couldn't fix him. The more I tried the more it pushed him away. The more I tried to be close to him, the further away he wanted to be.
It went from "I don't know what I want" to "I don't want this".
So, leave him be, get on with GAL and 180'g. Give him the space he needs to work out what he wants. Be the most authentic and attractive version of yourself you can be. Not for him, but for you. He will notice.
Yes every step will feel like another step further apart. I am much further on than you in the process, and every day something happens that causes me to pause and feel the hurt all over again. He is the first thing I think about in the morning and the last thing I think about before going to bed and the sheer act of pretending to not care about him is exhausting. But what is my alternative.
