My D10 was seen in her class trying to cut her arm. She apparently made red marks and then tried to hide it.... She said she wasn’t really trying to cut herself, just trying to “relieve some stress”.
I am sorry that this happened. No matter how hard we try to protect them from what is going on they sense that not all is right and this can manifest inn the strangest of ways. D12 has had reoccurring stomach pains since this all started. I have no doubt the stomach pains are real - she bottles everything up and it has come out in funny ways. She goes to a selective school and falling behind is not really an option so I had to speak to the school about her frequent absences. She begged me not to go. She has still not told anyone that her parents are separated.
You handled it well though. Patience and love.
Originally Posted by DejaVu6
I told him about it and he immediately tried to figure out “where did she get that idea?” instead of wondering about why.
In their warped perception of reality nothing is their fault, and everything is somehow our fault. I was up in the middle of the might and the front lights on my H's brand new electronic car were on full beam. I woke H up and said "the headlights on your car are on". He looked at me, and, no word of a lie, said accusingly "How did that happen?". When we saw a therapist about D12, he said "D12 is fine. She is just going through normal teenage stuff. Everyone is fine except FS".
You so should do the NYE party.
I know you are close to your MIL - but I wouldn't talk too much about H with her. Your H (because he will probably go through periods of playing the victim) will think you are ganging up on him. Your MIL sounds lovely, but if there is one thing I've learnt, although they mean well, they sometimes push H's into a corner.
