Not struggling quite as much

[Jim1234]

I understand. I'll repeat that if they want it you will know it. And the rest is a cheeseless tunnel.

She basically said if we did R, she didn't want to go back to counseling.

My opinion is that she doesn't want to do the work. And/or she was trying to temp check you with the "if we did R" comment. Perfect time to validate, how did you respond?

She texted me asking me to get ahold of the dentist and make an appointment when she comes back.

You guys are separated right? She is seeing someone else? But she requests you to play H for her? Am I reading this correctly. I'm not sure how to respond. But someone will have a good one for you.

I'd probably say "I'm not comfortable with that as you are seeing someone else/getting a D".

You're right about cheeseless tunnels. I'm putting the cart before the horse, and if she wants to R, I'll deal with it then.

I think you're right in that she doesn't really want to do the work. I think my admissions and recognition of my faults (at long last) has intrigued her, but she doesn't quite believe them. As far as my response, it was about a month ago, so I don't remember exactly, but I think I said something like, "Ya, I don't think they did a very good job for us. But maybe we should talk about that later."

I'm not sure what I'll do about the appointment. We are separated, but she's not seeing anyone else.