Whirlwind of Hurt 4

[Twofeet]

TF,

I’m just spitballing here, but is your W political views tend to lean to the liberal side of things? Not to say it has anything to do with D or your sitch...but my WAW extended family all have very liberal backgrounds and all have broken there families up. My W deceased mother was more centered...married 50 years, etc. She was W’s biggest influence outside of me prior tom BD. My views are fairly centered as my w were...especially placing importance on family values, etc. but I have noticed she has immersed herself in a lot of women’s movement post BD and has started to lean more to liberal side of things post her moms death, etc.

I guess theory is I do believe political views impact one’s viewpoints on marriage and family values.

EZ,

My family and my W's family are VERY conservative. My W has always been conservative, but apolitical and I have always tried to stay centered but sometimes lean conservative. W has always been into being an empowered woman and we would always enjoy having healthy conversations about some of these concepts during our marriage. They never lead to fights or problems just conversations so that I could understand her viewpoint. She would do the same for some of my views. Typical marriage stuff I think.

However some of this recent family value stuff and some of her new outlooks feel like the influence of W's gal pal who is so far far left its almost comical. I don't have any problem, with left leaning people, its good to have a balance in views, I am always open to having my mind changed. However, like I said gal pal is sooo extreme its like she is a caricature. W has even said gal pals beliefs are so against W core values that W could never be a close friend to gal pal, just a casual work friend. I am sure there are other influencers and enablers. Not sure if that has anything to do with W choice to D. W has never really given me a solid answer why she is choosing to D. Not sure I will ever know the answer.