Thanks for your perspective Rose. I guess I am wondering if you are suggesting I never inquire about our relationship again unless she brings it up first. I am also planning to continue to not initiate contacting her unless I have to which is rare and usually only through texts. The question I guess I still have is if there was a chance she might reconsider, would her feelings be dampened by me being distant, or we she likely reach out anyway if she had a change of heart?
Don't contact her. This "soft contact" is just pursuit. You know it.
Let her wonder what you are up to. LRT means:
1. Stop Pursuit. MWD lists many forms of pursuit, even indirect ones. 2. GAL. How is your GAL going? 3. Wait and See. Do steps 1 and 2 first.
You said she was asking about clothes on sale, well it can't be that she truly had no one else to talk to about that. She was trying to lure you into a bigger conversation. This doesn't mean that ultimately she wants you or not. She may not know. But you letting her feel the consequence of her choice to not have you is going to help her figure that out.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
