Whirlwind of Hurt 4

[Twofeet]

Ugh..... D8 was asking about the tooth fairy since D5 lost another tooth. So W decided to go ahead and tell D8 that there was no tooth fairy, then D8 asked about Santa Claus, so wife said no Santa Claus, no elf on the shelf, no Easter Bunny, etc. I told W I didn't appreciate her doing that without us talking about it first. She said D8 put her on the spot, I said table it next time until we can talk about it as parents. W said many modern families don't even do Santa Claus for xmas and she kind of likes that. I told W I don't want to be most modern families I want to be our family with our traditions and values, I never have been one to care about what other people think and do and I am not going to start now. I asked to withhold from spoiling anything for D5 and S3. She agreed. I told W I feel like there goes the last bit of innocence of D8. W says yeah we have been doing a real good job of taking it away these past few weeks. I feel like W has been doing a good job of spoiling the children's innocence these past few weeks, but I don't say it because it feels passive aggressive.
I also can't totally blame W, because D8 has always been inquisitive and this was bound to happen. I just wish she would talk to me first. This isn't totally new with W & D8 either. W and I had a healthy sex life up until BD then everything dropped to zero, including even touching. Anyway, D8 walked in on us in July, and W and I had a game plan on what to say, but W threw that out the door and gave D8 the full blown sex talk. I felt like she was too young for that. I told W I was upset with her, unfortunately what's done is done.

Another thing to note is that D8 is getting tired of W sh!t. D8 was pissed W went out both night this past weekend and said oh great Gma is just going to end up watching us the weekends we are with you Mom. Then yesterday morning I took the kids to school and D8 said Mom you are either running late for work or you have morning meetings and you never take us to school anymore. You are moving further away so we are probably just going to end up living with Dad most of the time. When D8 rants at W like this I stay the hell out of it. I have nothing to do with that and W already blames me for everything, so I don't need to add to the pile.

All 3 kids have been having emotional outbursts lately and I have been working pretty hard to help them through it. Its been pretty tough.