You are competing with a fantasy. Most LBS do not act quick enough, or use the wrong tactics at the wrong time.
The key is making changes for you. Hopefully H notices and is attracted to what he sees.
You will be going down several parallel paths, including:
Preparing for D and protecting yourself. Changing the way you interact with H. Personal growth. I lump lots of stuff into this includes new communication skills etc.
Originally Posted by Ready2Change
Right now you are plan B.
You are competing with a fantasy. Most LBS do not act quick enough, or use the wrong tactics at the wrong time.
The key is making changes for you. Hopefully H notices and is attracted to what he sees.
You will be going down several parallel paths, including:
Preparing for D and protecting yourself. Changing the way you interact with H. Personal growth. I lump lots of stuff into this includes new communication skills etc.
You are most likely correct. That痴 why the changes I知 making, I知 making them for myself. If he notices those changes and becomes attracted to the person I become, that would be great. However, if nothing changes, I値l still come out of this a better person. You can稚 do the work on self for others, that makes it inauthentic.
He is noticing that I知 loosing weight and says that I look beautiful. So I知 sure he will notice. However it just feels good that I知 less focused on him and more focused on myself. I知 not perfect but I知 proud of where I知 at in this process currently. If it comes to divorce that will be so hard but in the end, I will survive.
Original BD: 10/26/2017 PA: 10/2017 - 11/2017 Second BD: 09/15/2018 Currently: IHS M: 42 H: 45 S: 22 lives on his own D: 18 away at college S: 15 still lives at home - the only child we share together
