Right now you are plan B.


You are competing with a fantasy. Most LBS do not act quick enough, or use the wrong tactics at the wrong time.


The key is making changes for you. Hopefully H notices and is attracted to what he sees.

You will be going down several parallel paths, including:

Preparing for D and protecting yourself.
Changing the way you interact with H.
Personal growth. I lump lots of stuff into this includes new communication skills etc.


"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
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