There has been little or no curiosity or inquiry into my life or situation outside of business. She has been somewhat open about her situation and struggles when I have asked (she is fine financially). In a recent communication she told me about some clothes I liked that were on sale. I don't think I would be in danger of pressuring or controlling her if I were to casually ask what she thought about things after some time and just listen as you suggested. I am wondering if I am showing too little interest in her and if that might have a negative effect. I think a soft inquiry to how she feels will probably tell me everything I need to know and let her know that I am still open to it. She will likely say she has moved on and then I can get on with my life as well. If she changes her mind later then I can see how I feel at that time, but I wouldn't want to tie up my life living in a false hope. I have also joined a divorce group and am reading a very good book called: Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends. I always have my copy of DR in case someone shows up who is not yet past LRT.
Have you read about pursuit and distance?
There is nothing in what you have shared that gives any indication that she is reconsidering her decision to leave. Given that, I think she will absolutely see your "soft inquiry" will be seen as pursuit and will encourage her to move away from you, not toward you.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
