There has been little or no curiosity or inquiry into my life or situation outside of business. She has been somewhat open about her situation and struggles when I have asked (she is fine financially). In a recent communication she told me about some clothes I liked that were on sale. I don't think I would be in danger of pressuring or controlling her if I were to casually ask what she thought about things after some time and just listen as you suggested. I am wondering if I am showing too little interest in her and if that might have a negative effect. I think a soft inquiry to how she feels will probably tell me everything I need to know and let her know that I am still open to it. She will likely say she has moved on and then I can get on with my life as well. If she changes her mind later then I can see how I feel at that time, but I wouldn't want to tie up my life living in a false hope. I have also joined a divorce group and am reading a very good book called: Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends. I always have my copy of DR in case someone shows up who is not yet past LRT.
