New chapter....with or without her

[Ready2Change]

I disagree with this part of the validation thread. 🙂

Maybe I read it using the wrong tone, but this doesn't come across as a statement that validates the feelings or perspective of the other person. It's like trying to pass "I'm sorry your feelings were hurt" off as an apology.

My X would call me an A$$. I would respond "I am sorry you feel that way". It is better than escalating. There was some discussion in the past about agreeing vs validating. I lean toward the agreeing now.

Maybe validation is validating that we hear them rather than agreeing with their POV.