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You are way ahead of your H. This is good.
Have you read DR?

I believe "All is fair in love and war". One of your tactics is seduction. You want him to pursue you.

How about giving him what he asked for:

* He said he is tired of the same old same old. He wants something different.
* He said he is bored and has the sudden urge to change his routine.

* He says he is unhappy and feels like he is missing out on something
* He has blamed me for why he is unhappy with the marriage.

W:"H, I have been thinking about what you have said and I think it would be best if you moved out as soon as possible."

I really like this statement:
"I agree. This is not working for me either."

Do you understand why I am putting these out as options for you to consider?

I do understand why you’re putting those options out there. I’ve already told him if he wants to go to go. He’s given reasons why he can’t leave right now. Finances, work that needs to be done in the house (we bought a fixer and he’s doing most of the work himself.) So maybe he’s making excuses, who knows. So right now I’m trying to see how serious he really is. Only time will tell, I will definitely keep the forum posted.