Whirlwind of Hurt 4

[Twofeet]

Yikes, I come on DB forums and there are a bunch of posts about dating pre-D!

RyanHun I appreciate your sentiment, I however cannot not even fathom dating. Here is an example, the other day I stopped by my folks house to pick up some things. I used the bathroom, and silly enough, the soap they had reminded me of a perfume W used to wear back in HS. I had totally forgotten about this, but that smell brought an immediate flash of memories and emotions tied to her and that time in our lives. I was so overcome with the reality of those memories and emotions that I started tearing up. It was like I was reliving those moments again. I am a broken man trying to piece myself back together. I can put on a strong front and you wouldn't know better, but inside I am grieving massively. I couldn't possibly want to put another woman through that, it wouldn't be healthy or the right thing to do for either party. Some day I may date again, but in the meantime I need to heal from a 20 year R with I woman I grew up with who terminated our R without really any signs or warnings. The wound is deep and it will take some time to heal. YMMV, but for me this is a part of that marathon.

I think you can spend time with the opposite sex post BD, as long as its a fun friendly thing. I have done so, but usually in groups of people. That is just being friends and doing group things. Its also good practice to work on communication skills that you may be lacking with the opposite sex.