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I rejected him .....He begged and pleaded like a little kid. WTF?

I believe you have a good chance of turning things around based on this one statement.

Set him free.
Set your boundaries.
Enforce your boundaries.
List out your non-negotiables.
Walk away from the relationship faster than he does.

The things that work are completely counter-intuitive.

He has to FEEL that he has completely lost any chance of ever getting you back.
He has to be begging you to take him back.

People want what they cant have. Make him want you. Make him desire you. Understand the power of seduction.


I wish you well and hope you can build an amazing relationship with your H. You have all the power. Change the way you interact with him, FORCES him to change the way he interacts with you.

I loved this. Thank you so much. Of course there are no guarantees but I think you may be right. He hasn’t begged this much for me ever. You know why? Because he never has had to. I’m doing exactly what you’ve suggested. I’m getting on with my freaking life. One of two things will happen. One he will open his eyes, realize what he’s about to loose, and get his act together. Or two, he won’t open his eyes, he’ll leave and set out on a journey to find the happiness he says he’s looking for. One day he may regret leaving, maybe he won’t. Who really knows. However, if I know him as much I think I do, he’ll have some regrets. As far as I’m concerned that will just have to be a risk he’s willing to take if he leaves because I won’t be sitting back waiting on him. I’m a good woman and I have been a good wife. Notice I didn’t say I’ve been a perfect wife. However, what I have been is loyal, honest, loving, understanding, full of compromise, and supportive. I’ve never cheated on him or deceived him in any way.

So until I sign divorce papers, I’ll remain committed to my marriage. There will be no other men. If and when I have to walk away from this marriage, it will be because he wanted a divorce not me. Also, I’ll be walking away with my dignity and the satisfaction of knowing I did all that I could.

So my focus is on doing the work on myself. Improving myself. That’s the best thing I can do.

Again thanks for the encouragement!